After visiting with a courageous and successful co-worker, I pondered the depth of damage done by words uttered decades past, that when recalled, still smart with the sting of their deliverance.
In memories deep within our conciousness, the restatements, word-for-word, can be recalled with vivid realism and the emotional connection felt once again.
In other memories, words surface that have fallen from our own lips, and we yearn for the impossible, the ability to suck razor-sharp utterances back into our own mouths.
Perfection from either angle is impossible, but improvement can be measured not only in our ability to censor language that offends and hurts others, but also in our ability to dismiss words, intentional or unintentional, aimed in our direction with a sensitivity that separates syllable from soul.
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i still think about things i said TWENTY YEARS ago and regret them! i guess the only good thing to come from it is i try to use it as a lesson topic for my high school kids whenever i can. ugh. wish we could erase some things we've said. and i can remember every word of when casey said "i don't even recognize that leg" when i was prego!! :) heehee. love you marci!!! xoxo
Amen. It is still my fate to catch myself agonizing over things I've said days/weeks/years ago and hoping they were not hurtful. But I fear they were and wish to suck them back.
We all need to 'Zip it' more often... something I am still trying to do better :)
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